Dialogue from The Big Chill
Michael: I don’t know anyone who could get through the day without two or three juicy rationalizations. They’re more important than sex.
Sam: Ah, come on. Nothing’s more important than sex.
Michael: Oh yeah? Ever gone a week without a rationalization?
Rationalization, Not Denial
“You interrupted me tonight. A lot.” She tossed the accusation into the chill space between us in the car on the way home. “Everybody noticed. Did you see the way they all looked at me?” Her favorite means of leverage in an argument. Everyone on her side, no one on mine. “Well, if you would take a breath between words, maybe someone else could speak without talking over you,” I sulked as we pulled into the driveway. “We’ve been through this before. You talk too slow.” “Slowly,” I mentally corrected her, rolling my eyes as I walked to the front door without turning.
As she crossed the threshold, I turned and spoke deliberately, “It’s not my fault. You just never let me get a word in edgewise.” Snorting, “You pause between every word. It’s like you have to think about each one before you say it.” I closed my eyes, then softly “Precision is important to me. Sometimes the exact right word …takes time to find.” Not buying my tired excuse, “You’re in denial. You talk slow. It’s just that simple” A deep inhale before the words flowed out from me in one long gust, “First of all, I’m rationalizing, not denying. Look it up. If you’re going to play armchair psychologist, at least get it right. And for God’s sake, learn some grammar. It’s slowly. Not slow.” She hated it when I pulled the grammar card. So did I. My words had finally flowed smoothly but hurtfully. I was tired and frustrated, another rationalization. We had been down this path many times before.
I knew it was coming. “You…talk…slow…ly,” smirking. “You should join the Slow….Talkers…of…America…………Society,” pausing an extra second before the last word. Tired of the battle, tired of this particular taunt, I muttered, “I did. I’m even running for president.” I had caught her off guard, the first traces of a smile creasing her lips, head tilting in question, “How’s that going for you?” Suppressing my own grin, “It’ll be a while.” “They’re doing a roll call vote.”
Her smile broadened, warming and dissolving the chill. We hugged, grateful for the closing of the distance between us. A soft kiss on the neck. Then the lips. And another, lingering. Then longer, slower, warmer. Our eyes locked onto one another’s. Rationalization could wait. This was too important….
Copyright © Thomas Ward 2017
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Wow. Thank you so much. You just put a big smile on my face.
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Aww you are so welcome! You have a great blog. Do you have Twitter or Instagram? I just made accounts and would love to follow you!
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I do have twitter @ThomasWard_c4u but don’t use it regularly. Mostly for sending out a message when I blog on Psychology Today, but I’m happy to see what others are doing.
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I will follow you now! (:
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I am probably going to write a PT post over the weekend. If you give me your twitter name I can send you a notice.
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Great! My twitter is @redheadedbook2
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You are a professor of Psychology right? That is so incredible! I adore Psychology and studied it for many years. My fields were always forensic and evolutionary (:
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That’s great. There is a pretty strong forensic group here at UA
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How wonderful! What do you specialise in?
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Creativity. From a cognitive perspective. The thought processes that can lead to creativity. I also teach a course on Computers, Collaboration and Creativity.
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That is so great. When I studied Psychology I actually disliked cognitive the most lol. I just never got on with it (: but I admire it!
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It can be dull. Very abstract. Not as engaging as social or developmental.
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That’s hot!
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Thank you 🙂
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That was some really clever flow. Loved it!
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Thank you so much.
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Nice one and I am eager to know more…may be in Part 2.
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Lol….It needs the right prompt word 😉
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This story doesn’t seem rational. But I smiled all the way through it. Great writing Thomas.
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Hahaha….Thank you.
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I loved this post.. I read it slow 😝And savoured every word… Brilliant 😃
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Smiling. Thank you
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Good piece of work.
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Thank you
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Loved this!
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Thank you 🙂
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Short, smart and entertaining. Really good morning read.
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Thank you. It was a good prompt.
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One of the top 3 so far…XOXO
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Thanks so much. I am a slow talker 🙂 xo
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Very entertaining! 🙂
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Thank you so much.
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LOVE! Keepin’ it real! Best part about the other species is the making up part. I don’t want a part two. I like the way you kept it curious. Keep on keeping on Thomas.
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Thank you so much for your positive comments. I really appreciate it. It’s been a fun stretch writing this way.
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